How does one determine when, or even if, to divulge information about the nature of their being to someone?
When is the right time to sit someone down and tell them what you have learned of your true nature?
Where do you begin explaining things to them so that they don't run from the room screaming?
These questions are at the heart of a huge struggle that many of us face at one point or another, usually multiple times within a single age. The best way to approach this topic is to break it down into a few different factors addressing each individually.
- secrecy
- discretion
- open info
Secrecy - Keep it to yourself
To borrow from history to illustrate how this is generally the best course of action until such time as determinations of trust or open mindedness can be made.....the burning times. For those of you that do not know what is meant by that, simply put it is a period of about 300 years during the crusades and the inquisition when many were put to death for varying reasons. I mention this period not to get into debate about the whys and wherefores of it but only to illustrate what has happened when someone speaks of things not within the 'norm' of the times, granted it is an extreme example but I chose it for that very reason.
While it can certainly be a burden to know what you may about your nature and not be able to talk to anyone about it, the fact of that matter is most people are not ready to hear such seemingly fantastical things as other realms of existence, beings of energy and spirit, past lives being remembered. Even just a simple concept such as whether the paranormal exists or not can incite debate in even a small group of people, so imagine what it would be like to try and explain such wondrous things as other realms. The fact of the matter is, keeping the knowledge to oneself is generally the best course of action on a day to day basis.
Attempting to be too open about these things, even to some of the closest of friends, can result in being shunned, mocked, even outcast for any number of reasons. For anyone that has experienced the isolation of being an outcast after putting faith in someone too soon, this will sound all too familiar.
Discretion - When to test the waters
As mentioned above, confiding in someone before they are perhaps ready or open to hearing such things can have disastrous results and even destroy friendships/relationships. So how does one go about deciding when it is safe to 'test the waters' with this information? There is no easy answer to that, there is no formula for figuring out when is the right time.
The best advice I can give on this topic is be patient, be cautious, and be selective.
Be patient for the right moment to start testing the waters with little bits of information about these topics. Just touch on them a little bit here and there and gauge the reactions of the person(s) before sharing the next tidbit of information that you are just aching to tell them. Proceeding in this manner allows you to better ascertain exactly how far you can go, how quickly, and how open the person is to it. Let them set the pace.
Be cautious about exactly how much you choose to divulge and how quickly you do so. Throwing out a tidal wave of information nine times out of ten will result in the person you are trying to open up to being completely freaked out and thinking you should be in a cosy padded room. Even if the one you are sharing with is receptive to a greater or lesser degree, it doesn't mean you should fill them in on everything. Some people can handle only so much fantastical information before their heads explode, so pace yourself as I mentioned earlier and let them not only the pace but also the depth that they are open to.
Be selective about whom you begin to open up to about these things. Nothing worse than jumping the gun thinking someone is open to, or ready, to hear about the realms and what not then finding out they are far from it (yes I speak from personal experience). Determining whether to take the chance in starting to open up to someone takes time, experience, and basically being observant to their reactions when you test the waters.
Open info
When you have finally broken the ice and opened up to someone about everything there still are challenges involved. While you may no longer need to worry about being able to talk about your nature, tell that someone when you are feeling things that are 'other worldly', having memory resurgences, etc it still doesn't mean you can go all out with telling them everything about everything. There are many many things that are either too difficult to put into words that others may not grasp, no matter how open they are, some things that are simply not meant to be shared or spoken about with just anyone....you get the idea.
